Why We Love Gary Allan


Why We Love Gary Allan
By Bernadette A Moyer

We love Gary Allan and his music and it’s not what most people think, yes, he is a hot guy but then again so is my husband.

My husband and I like him because he isn’t just country music but really has a rock n roll sound too. My husband Brian is a huge classic rock and roll guy, most of the music he enjoys came out in the 70’s when we were teenagers. It’s the music by Tom Petty and Aerosmith and earlier music by The Rolling Stones.

Gary Allan is country with a rocker style and sound. I am all about the lyrics because they speak to me. My husband Brain will go to a live show and he watches the amount of guitar changes and what type they are playing at any given time with any particular song. For the most part Gary Allan plays his own original music.

We also enjoy the travelling to different towns and locations. We would never have visited Biloxi Mississippi if not for a Gary Allan concert and now we have been there several times. We enjoy the beaches in and around Biloxi and the short drive to New Orleans.

We have been to Erie Pennsylvania and to Atlantic City New Jersey and most recently to Toledo Ohio and other towns, just so we could attend a live show. For five years we attended his fan club parties in Nashville Tennessee. At this point in time I think we have been to about 15 of his live concerts. I just love his music and I love that my husband enjoys it and it is something that we can do together and experience as a couple.

Together we have made friends at his shows, met people from around the country that enjoy his music as much as we do. I have to be honest though he didn’t catch my attention right away. I was an avid watcher of CMT, Country Music Television and was a huge fan of several other artists.

One day they had breaking news that ran across the bottom of the television. It was about Gary Allan. His wife had just committed suicide in their Nashville home. They were a blended family with six children. Because my husband and I were both widowed so young, I was just 23 years old and Brian when he was 32. Gary Allan’s story really struck a chord with us.

So I paid attention. I paid attention later when he ”came back” with a song called Best I Ever Had and I watched him on Oprah when he talked about his loss and about suicide. I watched his music evolve and watched him use his trauma and turn it around for something good. His music is real; it’s about life and often about the range of emotions that goes along with life. He is a survivor and has thrived in spite of personal challenges. And isn’t that what we all aspire to do? To take what life hands us and to make the very best of it? Even the bad stuff and the sad stuff can be turned around and something good can come from it.

We really believe that so much great art is born of pain … you have to have something to write about and something to say that will resonate with an audience. Gary Allan writes music, he plays music and he sings music and we just love him for all that.

It has been just a few days since his last show that we attended and it was a really great show and an all-around good time. Today we look forward to the release of his next album and to seeing him play again, so until the next time … go Gary Allan … go … we just love what you do and how you do it!

Bernadette on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/bernadetteamoyer
New book! ALONG THE WAY by Bernadette A Moyer at http://createspace.com/5737976


Healthy Debate


Healthy Debate
By Bernadette A. Moyer

In a world where expressing your thoughts and feelings can cause you to be un “friended” and un “liked” we seem to have lost our desire for a healthy debate. No one agrees on every issue, we are individual thinking people that come from our own experiences and with our own education and points of view.

Debate used to be healthy and the vehicle that helped to flush out the best ideas and then a compromise often ensued to help bring about change and growth. It doesn’t seem like that today, we are a split nation with few compromises.

We seem to be more of a “my way or the highway” mentality. People are afraid to say what they really think and believe because it may cost them a few “likes.”

Is our stifling of the expressing of our thoughts, the root of so much anger in our society today? Are we going unheard, untrue and just going along to try and get along?

We are living in one of the angriest times in our history. Killings and de-valued life is an everyday occasion. Hatred and intolerance seems to have taken the place of love and understanding. It is happening in families and communities and across the board in even the best neighborhoods throughout this country.

Guns don’t kill people, people kill people; it is the person holding the gun and using guns to express displeasure, anger and frustration.

Our tolerance for people that don’t think, feel and believe just like us seems to be nonexistent. Speak about your faith in God and a religion and some people are openly “uncomfortable.” No one said that they have to believe in God or any religion.

The believers need to respect the nonbelievers and the nonbelievers to respect the believers. Making someone “uncomfortable” because they have faith and talk about God? Not everything is going to appeal to everyone.

Life should be more like a buffet table, take what you like and can use and leave the rest behind. But don’t get mad or angry or even “uncomfortable” when not everyone thinks and believes exactly like you do.

Express that you are for or against Obama or any political leader and someone is not going to be happy. Friends on Facebook express they have lost friends as a result of speaking their mind on politics or religion.

What happened to having “the conversation” and “the debate” and trying to flush out the best ideas? What happened to our ability to tolerate people that aren’t exactly like us and to celebrating our differences?

We used to have the “Easter Bunny” but he/she has been replaced by the “Spring Bunny” as not to “offend” anyone that doesn’t celebrate Easter. In our desire to achieve political correctness have we lost our mind and our ability to think on our own without someone or some group deciding how and what we should think? And what we should say and exactly what words we can and cannot use?

The news used to be the place to get the facts and then you used your own brain to process the information, today the news is replaced by opinion makers. It is all editorial almost all of the time; people that want to tell us how and what to think.

Have we become so lazy brained that we can’t think for ourselves? The brain is a muscle; it is use it or lose it.

Can we disagree and have the debate and still respect and appreciate those that don’t think exactly like we do? Debating used to be a good and healthy thing … what happened to where we can no longer think and express our thoughts and beliefs without creating undue anger in others?

I never think that I am right; I always come from a place of head and heart and try to be true to myself without wanting to hurt others that don’t think exactly as I do. And I love hearing other views and ideas that may just open up my mind. Like-minded people typically do bond together but it shouldn’t be at the expense at discounting all others.

Let’s have the debate and agree to disagree and find common ground where we can. When we act and think for the greater good, people generally do best when they are together and not when they are divided.

As we prepare for yet another debate for the Republican Party want-to-be presidential candidate perhaps we should think about what job description we are using to measure the skill set of the next potential president?

How many of us fully comprehend what the job entails to become the next President and what would a complete job description actually look like? Before we can move on to the question of; do they have the necessary skills and the experience and why should this person be hired over the competition?

Bernadette on Facebook at http://www.Facebook.com/bernadetteamoyer

My New Book is Out


My New Book is Out
By Bernadette A. Moyer

My new book titled; ALONG THE WAY has finally been published and of course I am excited. Writing and creating a book is a lot like birthing a baby as you go from conception to birthing, it is a process!

And just like having a baby when that book is finally birthed/published you are just over the moon happy and so giddy with glee.

This isn’t my first book and yet every book feels like a first. I know that it is my best work, well at least, to date. Most writers know that you just get better and better the more that you write.

It is a long road and a lengthy process to create a book and like my favorite Stephen King quote states; “there is no such thing as writing, there is only re-writing.” I don’t think there is a writer out there that is ever finished/ done, we want to edit, to correct, and to rephrase and we want to do it over and over again.

ALONG THE WAY includes more than 220 articles, blogs and essays and covers a wide range of topics. Some titles include; It Isn’t About You, Dads and Daughters, Perfection is God’s Business, Dear Estranged Adult Sons and Daughters (has over 1,000 “likes” on Facebook) and Happiness is an Inside Job.

You can find a detailed book description at http://www.createspace.com/5705583?ref

My new book is out and I hope that you enjoy it as much as I have enjoyed creating it!

Bernadette on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/bernadetteamoyer