Been There Done That
By Bernadette A. Moyer
As we age we begin to acknowledge all the many experiences that we had whether they were personal or professional. The older we are the longer the list. One of the challenges in aging is to stay relevant and young in spirit. We can choose to keep our inner child alive and well or we can deny it.
That inner child that says, “I can do that!” And has a curiosity for all that is new and yet to be experienced. But there is also value in the aging person that can reflect upon “I have been there and I have done that!”
This week two friends had new book come out, for one she has written several books although this new book has a new genre and a new publisher and the other had his very first book hit the market. I am proud of them and pleased with what I have read. A younger Bernadette may have been envious and even jealous but the truth is that I am neither. I have been there and I have done that. Now I am able to be genuinely supportive and appreciative of their works.
Life brings change in its own time and its only way, the only thing that we can truly count on is that life will change. Nothing lasts forever and nothing stays the same. We may be aging but we should be all about where we are still growing.
Few things in life hold the same appeal as they did in the beginning, we either transition with the changes or we opt out. Anyone in a long term marriage understand that there is an ebb and a flow. What makes a marriage last is that agreement that the two parties share. In essence that agreement if it endures the test of time says; I am here for you, I am here for you today and for tomorrow and when you are attractive and when you are unattractive. When you are glowing I will be there to bask in that glory and when you are down and out I will offer you a safe haven. In essence couples that are in it for the long run understand that.
Not every day is going to go your way. We mature as we age and we come to understand that as we grow and change and so do all those that surround us.
In my lifetime I have had an easy time with “hello” and struggled with my “goodbyes” and I have been working on that. I have learned to trust what you know and to let all the rest go. This has saved me much grief and heartache. When it comes to hanging on; I have been there and done that. And in retrospect it is not healthy.
What is important is what is ahead, what is yesterday has already been done, we have been there and we have done yesterday. The quest is for all that is yet to come and all that is ahead of us.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” Romans 15:13